Is Breaking Up Always Wrong?

Relationship Breaks: Benefits

Taking a break may hurt, but it may be good. Space from a spouse, friend, or family member has three key benefits.

Breaks help you focus.

According to certified marital and family therapist Ashera DeRosa, L.M.F.T., taking a break might allow you time to think.

Taking a break delays a breakup.

If you're not ready to stop, slowing down and coasting feels better than a sudden split.

Breaking Up: Consequences

Taking a break in a relationship carries drawbacks, despite its merits.

Breaks can lead to breakups.

Breakups don't always end. "Missing someone hurts," says Wright. "If you grow apart on a scheduled break, you were probably growing apart anyway."

Unagreed breaks might lead to animosity.

Breakups require agreement from both parties. Otherwise, there may not constitute a break. DeRosa adds, "You can't break up through ghosting."


Relationship Breaks

RN, are you still debating a break? Take a break if these indicators appear.

Your relationship's good.

Reuniting after a separation can promote a good relationship. In a good relationship, you feel loved and supported.

You've discovered the right guy

If you're with someone who may be ideal for you but the universe has other intentions, maybe a break is all you need.

Approaching a Relationship Break

There are ways to make a split in your relationship go well.

Set expectations.

Most crucial, be honest about how much time you need so your partner(s) doesn't feel like you're stalling.


Even if you're in favor of a breakup, it's emotionally difficult. DeRosa admits breaks are hard. She advises learning from your emotional dependence.