5 Symptoms of Unresolved Sorrow

1. The death haunts you.

You often feel too much sadness, anger, longing, or hopelessness because of the loss, which makes it hard to do anything.

1. The death haunts you.

"You may feel stuck in a cycle of grief that you can't get out of, and you may find it hard to find joy or pleasure in other parts of your life," Dorn said.

2. You avoid to reminders.

You might avoid places, hobbies, or other people who remind you of the person you lost because it hurts too much.

2. You avoid to reminders.

For example, you might not want to go to the cemetery, look at pictures of your loved one, or do things you used to enjoy doing together

3. Their death obsesses you.

Thoughts that aren't true don't match up with what we know about the death. This could include blaming yourself for things you couldn't change.

3. Their death obsesses you.

Calvert gave the example of someone taking full responsibility for a bad choice made by someone else that may have led to the death of a loved one.

4. You can't accept their death.

You might have trouble coming to terms with the loss and feel denial or shock about the person's death.